Impatience? Feeling The Need To Control?


They say patience is a virtue!

Let’s see here is what the dictionary says, Patient: content to wait if necessary. Now lets see what they have to say about impatience: lack of patience.

So I guess impatience more or less means you are not content waiting, Right?

Let me explain why I bring this subject up here today.

Wealth Builders Team


First off if you know me you then know I have been concentrating most of my time working with my team.

I have been doing all I can to help them all get their foundations set up as well as their websites built, yet a few team members still feel some restraint so to say in moving forward.

I have always been a pretty patient person, yet I still have always wanted things done like yesterday and most of my team members are not conforming to my expectations.

Does this make sense? 

Waiting for things to materialize had never been my strong suite.

Impatience About The Little Things

Yes I believe it is the little things that bothered me the most.

I did put together some training video’s for everyone to follow to try to free up some of my time,yet I still feel the need to go over everything with each of them personally.

I feel this is just good practice so they know the drill when they start building their teams.

Well I have done this multiple times over the past few months and impatience is setting in and I am starting to get frustrated.

What am I learning is that I have no control over what others will or will not do, my expectations are often out of sync with reality.

We cannot build for others. We can help but we cannot make others do what they do not want to do.

I cannot control everything! Impatience is not the answer.

Impatience Started A Thought Process And This Triggered Action

You see impatience wasn’t the reason at all!



I came to the realization that this unpleasant feeling just motivated me to change the way I respond to these people that are not ready to move forward at the pace I set for them.

There is no need to get frustrated about anything, I just needed to take control of the situation and let others go at their own pace on their own time.

I had to let go of my need to control everything and just focus on what I need to do and take the necessary steps to keep moving forward.

Remember the next time you see that impatience is setting in and you find yourself getting frustrated just remember that this is simply an indication that you have a conflict with something that is going on.

All you really need to do is to think it over and then to come up with a solution on what you can do about it.

Yep this is just a thought, your belief that you have to wait to get to the next level, don’t let this stop you, keep moving forward.

Believe in yourself and change your thought process, start looking at things with a different perception, this is going to make you feel better and you will be on your way to getting exactly what you want.

Impatience? Fear?

As I am writing this another thought just came to me.

Could this impatience of mine be yet another fear?

Perhaps I had this fear of failing once again.

Yes Perhaps, but I have learned we cannot let our fears come into play with our goals. Don’t Let Fear Stop You From Reaching Your Goals

This was one of my last posts in case you missed this, you can click over and check it out here.

What are your thoughts on impatience?

Is it a bad thing?

Or perhaps this just makes us stronger because it makes us take a deeper look with in ourselves.

Please let me know what your views on this subject.

Once again I am learning, learning. learning more about myself and therefore I will better able to help serve others.

Get clear on what it is you want to do and do not let impatience stop you from reaching your goals! You need to be content with where you are Period!

I Wish You All A Great Easter Sunday!

As always, thanks for visiting my blog!

Here’s To Success, Here’s To Happiness

Success Coach Chery Schmidt

Chery Schmidt

Skype: cheryschmidt


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  1. says

    Reading your article reminded me of why i quite coaching :-) Seriously, the truth is the easier it is to join a business opportunity the higher percentage of “dabblers.” Depending on how large the group it can be a challenge to find those gold nuggets – I used to manage an area of 3 Islands and 1,000 clients! It sounds like you’ve definitely got the right attitude and approach Chery and I think your team members are lucky to have you there to guide and inspire them.

    • says

      Hello Marty, I do enjoy working with my team and Yes I do have a few great people who do appreciate my guidance. Thanks for the vote of confidence my friend, It does mean a lot to me.. Chery :))

  2. says

    Hi Chery,
    Good post. I have a tendency to get impatient too (another reason I don’t work with MLMs any longer). I got so tired of people joining and wanting instant success but they would not do anything asked of them or be reliable to follow through.

    I say now, I’m the only one I have to depend on. If I don’t make any money, it’s my own fault, not the fault of anyone else.

    Have a great evening. Monna

    • says

      Hello Monna! It only takes a few like us though to make some good money, then just to get them to find a few and so on. It does get frustrating but it also bring a lot of gratification when you find a few good team members to work with. My team is growing and I can’t wait for the day when we can all look back and say WOW I sure am glad we didn’t quit.

      It is still up to me to find and help everyone on our team and I for one am loving it.. Thanks for starting the conversation out here today my friend.. Always good to see you here.. Chery :)0

      • says

        Hi Chery,

        That is the spirit that leads to success. Anybody can start something. Anybody can quit as well.
        But, it takes a winner to stay the course, stay till the end. It takes a winner to know that I do not want to give up now because I might just be 3 feet away from gold when I feel like giving up.

        Average people, on the other hand, quit on the first sign of struggle. They blame people, blame system, blame the opportunity(which might be true in some cases) or even blame the industry itself. But they fail to look into themselves and realize that it was them who couldn’t build a team :-)

        You are doing a fine job with a great attitude. I am sure your team is lucky to have someone like you to guide them, coach them and inspire them.


        • says

          Hello Kumar! It does all start with the mindset HUH? If you know you can, YOU CAN! Noting will stop you not even impatience HEHE Thanks my friend for the wonderful comment. Always good to see you here.. Chery :))

  3. says

    Hi Chery. I do think impatience is another form of worry, and it really sucks the energy out of you. I have become more patient as I have gotten older, which is a good thing. Negative emotions should be looked at. If there is a solution, work on it. If it’s something out of your control, put it in a locked closet in your mind. Thanks for this post.

    All the best,

  4. says

    Hi Chery,

    There are so many people today who are always focused on the idea of not having enough…money for instance. Fear, impatience and frustration can quickly grow inside us when we feel we will never have enough to meet our needs, goals or desires.

    I think our egos are always ‘wanting’ and doesn’t know what real satisfaction is.

    Rachel recently wrote What is Your Pitch

  5. says

    I don’t know about you – but I find that I’m more impatient when I’m not taking good care of myself – things like not eating right, getting enough sleep, or overscheduling can bring out the impatience – whether it’s family, employees, clients (not usually – but it can happen) or myself.

    • says

      Hey Marty! You are so right, I know when I don’t get enough sleep or eat to much junk food that my patience runs thinner.. Thanks for adding to the conversation today! Have a Great Easter Sunday My Friend! Chery :))

    • says

      I actually agree with Marty. Every time my health whether physical or mental is a bit scrambled and not at its optimal levels i tend to become impatient with work, friend and family. Knowing this i do my best to keep myself at my optimal levels to make sure i am a person that people want to be around.

      • says

        I agree with Marty and Kyle that being low in energy whether physically, mentally, or even in some cases spiritually, leads to impatience. So, I think taking care of oneself holistically on all levels is so important.

      • says

        Hey Kyle, I think we are all that way HUH? We all perform better when we are at our best, that is why it is so important to take care of you first. I did write a post on this one a few weeks ago.. Thanks for the comment and the visit..Chery :))

  6. says

    I think that the impatience that you talk about is more to do with control.. I have an upline leader who does things for us because she doesn’t think we can or will do things the way she wants them done… that’s how I see if from the other side…

    As fitness person, I have learned that people will do what they can when they can if they want to.. Some will, some won’t and I have to find more clients who are maybe ready to move forward with their fitness and health. Is it learning… always!!

    Thanks for you insight!!

    • says

      Hello Holly! Perhaps you are right, I can be a little controlling sometimes, I will try to keep this in mind. Yes it is always a learning experience HUH? Thank for sharing.. So good to see you here.. Chery :))

  7. says

    Hi Chery,

    Working with people will bring up impatience sometimes. We have to remember that everyone learns different, and also not all will have the same drive. I think that you making videos is a great idea. Saves so much time when people are asking the same question over and over again.
    When I find this happening to me, I jot down what the question or “cause” is. Then ask myself “could it be me?” So what I do is get those questions and write it down. (I have a long list lol) Then just shoot an email out to the person.
    Now there are folks that really don’t want to do the work that is necessary. I look at them as weeds in my garden. I do have to make the decision to pull them out.
    So I have another document with Questions for them to answer. Things like Did you read such and such, did you try to apply it? Then I get a little deeper and ask Do you think this is the right fit for you? What are your expectations? You get the picture.
    It does save me time and energy so I won’t get impatient.
    But the main thing is when working with people impatience comes with it. We need to take a good look at ourselves and dig very deep to our “why”…..sometimes I find it is neuro-linked to something deep in my subconscious.
    So my friend, it is a constant learning experience when our students become our teachers.
    That’s my two cents!

    • says

      Hello Donna, I do appreciate your two cents my friend. I think this is great advice and something that will help me with when I do feel myself getting impatient. Thanks for the Awesome Comment, Chery :))

  8. says

    Far and away Chery, this has been the toughest lesson for me to learn. I’m impatient as hell sometimes and fear of loss is the driver. Slowing down, calming down and relaxing has helped me embrace it….love the message. When we cede control, we grow like weeds 😉 Thanks!

    I found this post on and gave you a thumbs up 😉

    • says

      Hello Ryan, Great advice my friend! Slow down, calm down and relax OH YEH!Always good to step back and rethink things HUH? Thanks for sharing, always nice to see you here. Chery :))

  9. says

    Hi Chery,
    This post gets us thinking. You ended the posts with is impatience good?

    You know, I think there is a good in it. I am a “focused” type of person. I am on an intense Accounting job right now. But I am the type of person that if something stresses me out, I don’t chat about it just to vent. I talk it through to try to find a solution. So, I think impatience helps me a lot. I don’t sit around chatting and complaining just to hear myself talk because I am on a mission to make something better :) So impatience helps me to forge ahead and accomplish good things.

    But, and here is the big BUT. I think there is also a fine line when I may become too intense. Go figure :) But, the good news, is that the older I get … but let’s not said old :) . . . I am so trying to learn to take deep breaths and also say: I need a balanced life, I have to put some of these things off and prioritize; I can’t do everything today; I have to be patient.

    Such a fine line.

    I just want to tell you that I identified with your thoughts of control and impatience. Once upon a time I was running an Accounting department. I had many people reporting to me and I thought they would be sooooo happy I was doing things to help them. They were all so happy right? NO! Oh, my goodness, the stories I could tell.

    How could they not want what was “good for them”. How could they not appreciate me? How could they not help me to help them? How could they try to take advantage of me? Life lesson, you can’t control how people react. I think we do have to work at trying to help others, doing good work, bu then we need to “let go” and know we can’t control how they react.

    I did read this on

    • says

      Hello Barb! Wowsy Girl Friend! We are quite a bit alike HUH? I do know I need to take a step back but I see such high potential in others that I just want to shake them when they don’t take action.

      I take time with people who come into my life and get to know them. So I know their situations and know they are capable of more. Yes I guess this is what gets me the most.

      I guess I need to realize this is a lifetime journey and not everyone will move at the speed I want HEHE I have always been this way, so I probably am not going to change over night.

      Thanks for sharing, I do appreciate it.. Chery :))

  10. says

    Hi Chery,
    yes, we are in control (over ourselves), as long as we live consciously.
    Sometimes we can have something trigger some old stuff and the fear and anxiety can actually switch of our logical thinking, especially if for some reason we have allowed ourselves to get tired and run down.

    Helping others can be challenging, do they really want to be helped?
    Your post is great food for thought!
    Thank you!
    Love and Light!

    • says

      Hello Yorinda! Great question my friend “Do they really want to be helped?” Now this is the one I need to ask more and not just think so HUH? Thanks for the wonderful comment always nice to see you here.. Chery :))

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